In case you were popping by for some encouragement...I'll be sprinkling these words with a lot of new favorite quotes based on all the doors that have closed, the windows that have opened, and the new normal that continues to present itself on a daily basis. Know that you are valued, there is a place for you, and that while things may continue to shift you will land, and hopefully it will be in the place you were always intended to be.
I learned a lot about myself while at home with my people, and was quickly reminded that I need to get back to the things that matter, not just in the interim, but to stay from now on. I have a tendency to be a YES person...a person that struggles with the consequences of saying no. letting someone down, or the inability to help.
But the truth is, when we say yes to one thing, we say no to another...its just that simple. We are all given the same amount of hours in the day, no more and no less, and only so many things will fit inside a twenty-four hour period of time.
This means that I had to take a careful look at the the places in which I am not valued, the things I sign up for that do not serve to elevate me or others around me. Some of these things surround how I operate my business and some on how I conduct myself in personal relationships. Others focused on my stubborn attitude to release things I had invested in.
After all is said and done,
I learned that I am worth more,
that choosing for me can affect
those around me in a positive way,
and that being in the moment can
include stillness and connection
rather than constant hustle.
Maybe you found that too, or maybe
you need to read these. I was not able to
slow down while we were stuck inside;
I do have three kiddos and a business to run after all.
But, I was able to stop chasing those things
that have little pay-off, things that connect me to anxiety,
commitments I fulfill based on guilt and not joy,
people and places that hold on tightly
to my work ethic and not necessarily
place value on my contribution.
So if you are feeling less than,
uncentered, wobbly and unbalanced..
hear me when I say this, YOU ARE VALUED.
It is okay to close some doors, let go,
and accept yourself...and when you do that,
you will be in a better place to accept
all the good things. The joy will be easier to find,
and those around you will naturally benefit
from the value you place on yourself.
Jennifer Kalista is the face behind In The Moment Restorations offering everything from the likes of design services and paint color recommendations, to custom furniture restoration and handpicked home decor, lifestyle goods, apparel and more.